Mama's baby, Rapist's maybe?

I saw a picture on facebook today, that really made me think.  It talked about the Republican vote against abortion for rape and incest victims.  Now I understand that those who are pro-choice, myself included, are essentially in favor of preventing a life from being born.  But what about the life that is already here, now.  Do we ignore how it affects them?  Are the rights of the unborn, not quite human, indecipherable from a chicken, cluster of cells more important than the woman who is carrying it?  Rape is already a vicious and heinous crime, with memories that haunt victims for a lifetime.  But, to prohibit abortion, means not only do those memories haunt them, but now there is a physical, constant reminder of the day where a choice was taken from them. 

With the outlawing of abortion for rape victims, what will happen next?  Do the rapists get to have parental rights?  If caught, will he have to pay for child support? Can he petition for joint custody, meaning the woman can never put that day behind because she would routinely see the sick barbarian who claimed dominion over what was not his? What if the rape victim doesn't have health insurance (which Obamacare would prevent by the way), who pays for all of the medical expenses? By expenses I mean the ultrasounds, doctors, the person who administers the epidural, the nurses who watches over this hate-made baby. These expenses alone cost almost $20,000.  Who pays for the diapers, the formula, the clothes, the daycare, and extra-curricular activities?  Is it fair to make a woman who did not want any of these things, be bound by law to pay for them? 

Not to mention, how a pregnancy can affect other aspects of a woman's life.  Pregnancy is taxing on the body.  And pregnancy and giving birth are not 100% safe.  Even though, it is a small percentage of women who die from giving birth, the risk is still there.  More importantly, pregnancy is exponentially more dangerous on a child.  By child, I don't mean a 15 or 16 year old girl, I mean the little girl who is still in elementary school, with pig tails in her hair.  To have a girl on the cusp of young adulthood, be forced to give birth is unbelievable cruel.  Not only is her innocence lost, but so is her hope of returning to a somewhat normal life.

Now many would say that adoption is always an option.  Those who have never had to make this decision should close their mouths now.  In the midst of coping with having your most inner and sacred part of you ripped to shreds by an uncaring monsterous degenerate and dealing with the physiological and psychological changes of pregnancy, you must now make the hardest decision of your life: to give away your child.  No one can understand the gravity of that thought unless they have had to make it themselves.  Some may ask how is adoption a harder decision than abortion.  To hold your child, to hear it cry, wrap its hand around your finger and then hand your baby to a stranger... is more than one can bear.

I think the Republican ideology to ban abortion for rape and incest victims is incredibly insensitive and demoralizing, stemming from a fabricated delusion of self-righteous, right-wing religious bigotry.    I firmly believe that those who should make the choice about rape and incest victim rights, should be rape and incest victims.  Their voices should be heard, whether it be for or against the ban.  But politicians who are so far gone from the reality of the every day woman, should not be the ones who decide on a woman's reproductive right.

Yes, love and cherish the creation of hate and rage filled act that you didn't ask for and had no choice but to keep.. yea.. that sounds promising- said no sane person ever 

Best I never had??

As I continue on my journey of not settling for any guy,,, my clock is ticking. I often reminisce on a guy I will call "Vincent".  Now granted I was never in an official relationship with him, he is the longest relationship I've ever had.  I honestly didn't appreciate the little things he did while I was with him.  I never had to ask for quality time or wonder why I hadn't heard from him in 3 days.  I would give my left arm to have that comfort again.  He was very attractive.. tall, "good" hair, atheletic, in college and good behind closed doors.  But the fact remains he wasn't the best for me since we no longer speak.

The issue now is, no one has seemed to measure up to him or surpass him.  I was younger when I was with him so some things that weren't important then are major issues now, like children and where to live.  But those things aren't even relevent since I can't get to the point with a guy where they would be a deciding factor.  I seem to fall into this never ending cycle of liking a guy who is vaguely interested in me or not ready to settle down and the guys who like me, I'm vaguely interested in, if at all.

So I begin to ask the question was Vincent the best I'll ever have?  The answer honestly scares me because if he was... the future is bleak at best.  What should I do?  Just continue as usual, change my standards? What do you do when no one measures up to the one before?  Is it all a mind game or was he the best?  I am over Vincent so thats no the issue as many would think, but he did set a standard, which wasn't very high... yet no one can pass it.